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It's all about the sex, right?
There are couple of interesting points
to note with regards to the "sexual fit"
between younger men and older women.
It is widely thought that men tend
to reach their sexual peak in their late teens, whilst
women peak later, in their early thirties. But as usual
once you start digging there is more to know, and the
above is not strictly true!
Firstly, the ideas about the sexual
peaks arose from the research that the late Dr. Alfred
C. Kinsey did on "orgasmic frequency" in the late 1960s.
He reported that in their late teens, males were likely
to have more orgasms than at any other time in their
lives, and that women tended to have the most orgasms
when they were a little older.
But this is more to do with the "sexual
aging" of men and women rather than the reaching
of "sexual peaks," which have no scientific basis.
What I have noticed is that men feel
free to explore their sexuality at a younger age than
women (although that is changing more these days). Younger
men will have been exposed to sexual material through
their friends, etc. at much a younger age and are raised
much more sexualized than younger women.
As women get older they GET more comfortable
with their bodies, and begin to have a better relationship
with their "sexual desires." By the time a women is
in her thirties, she is very much aware of what will
arouse her, more confident sexually, and able to ask
for what she "needs" and "wants" in bed.
Also, women in their thirties onward
will be older and wiser, having had life experience
and therefore have less hang ups. Or at the very least,
be able to manage themselves in the "bedroom" department
much better.
So in some aspects it would appear
on a "sexual" level the two groups are well matched.
But as I point out in my Ebook, Younger Men
Acid Test — Is he good enough for you?,
every woman has to have a "game plan"
(www.womenwholoveyoungermen.com/services).
One of the 70 questions I have in
the section of "Getting to know him"
asks, "Sex on the first date - would you see her
again?" This is to establish how the younger man
views his sexual interactions with women and opens a
dialogue about his sexual expectations.
Other questions that are asked are,
"What's the nicest thing you've ever done for a
girlfriend" or, "Have you ever sacrificed a
major sporting event for a girlfriend?"
Also, we ask, "What would you
do if you won a million dollars?" and "What's
your solution to homelessness?"
These are all questions designed to
probe the type of person the younger men is, his attitude
to women and social responsibility issues.
Furthermore they are asked, "Whom
they admire" and "What challenges they've had?"
These questions will uncover the kind
of person they are.
Most women will need to "like"
a guy before they want to engage in a relationship with
them, sexual or not! Hence the game plan
becomes:
For most women it is about "connection"
first. Then of course we can say, "Its all about the
sex, right" because that's got to be
"mind-blowingly" good too!!!!....
Until…we meet again to break
the rules!
Love,
Rita x
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